FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

EVENTS/PROGRAMMING

What exactly do you do here? +

The CSPC community orchestrates events where members can explore and celebrate their sexuality. Depending on the event, this can involve play (BDSM, sensation, etc.), sex (voyeurism / exhibitionism, group, etc.), and socializing. Consent and respect are of the utmost importance, and we have trained staff overseeing activities.

Sounds fun! Can I come? +

Our parties are open to CSPC members and their invited guests. Not a member yet? You must first attend a New Member Orientation. We host New Member Orientations before most of our parties. If there is an event you want to come to but are not a member, look for an event that is billed as “New Member Orientation and [name of event you want to go to ] and then purchase a ticket! We also host New Member Orientations twice per month online. Check out our Events Page to see what’s coming up.

“Does the CSPC host [insert particular kind of kink] parties?” +

All our events are created by our members, for our members. If there is a particular party that you want to attend and you don’t see it on our Events Page , that doesn’t mean we don’t do them, we just don’t have people who are championing them yet. You can bring that party to life! Contact the Events Director to find out how you can create your dream party.

Will I get to fulfill all my wildest fantasies? +

We sure hope so! But the reality is that it may take time to foster the connections and trust needed find those special partners. We hope to offer you a venue to see new things, have conversations, put yourself out there, and progress on your sexual journey. Enjoy the process! Having a friend or partner with you can be a huge help.

What do I wear? +

First off, please arrive in street-legal attire. Once you are inside, feel free to change into whatever makes you feel sexy and confident. We see everything from fetish wear to business casual. Some parties have themes, feel free to dress up if you feel so inspired! Still not sure what to wear? You can never go wrong with black or leather pieces. You can be naked, barefoot, wrapped in a sheet, dressed to the nines, covered head to toe in latex… your imagination is your only limit!

What is permitted at your events? +

Read our Essential House Rules

Can I bring a guest to a party? +

When a member purchases a party ticket, they have the option of also purchasing up to 2 non-member guest tickets. If after buying your member ticket, you later decide to bring a guest or want to switch your guest, you can do so in the Member Portal .

All members and guests must have a valid ID to enter the party.

Guests do not need to attend the New Member Orientation. However as their host, you are responsible for your guests following the Essential House Rules.

If your guest would like to attend the New Member Orientation, you both may if space permits. This WILL NOT count towards membership unfortunately as our software doesn't accommodate this scenario. Alternatively, your guest may purchase a New Member ticket, and you (the member) may join them if there is space.

Lost & Found +

If you left something at an event, please email us within 24 hours of the event at info@thecspc.org so that we may coordinate with our volunteers and the venue to locate your item. Items that haven't been claimed for 2 months will be donated.

Covid Safety Policies +

Wearing a KN95/N95 or equivalent mask is highly recommended but voluntary as of February 1, 2024, unless otherwise noted on the specific event listing. Please help us continue to protect each other from airborne illness by masking when you are able to do so, testing prior to attending events, and staying home if you aren't feeling well. Masks are provided free of charge at all our in-person events to encourage their continued use.

Membership

How do I become a member? +

Not a member yet? You must first attend a New Member Orientation. We host New Member Orientations before most of our parties. If there is an event you want to come to but are not a member, look for an event that is billed as “New Member Orientation before [name of event you want to go to ] and then purchase a ticket! We also host New Member Orientations once per month on weeknights that are not attached to parties. Check out our Events Page to see what’s coming up.

What does it cost to become a CSPC member? +

Membership is $10 per month if paid on a month-by-month basis, or $100 per year if paid in a lump sum. We also have options that will auto-renew each month until you decide to cancel them for only $8.33 per month. You can manage your membership in the Member Portal.

I attended a New Member Orientation but the member portal says my membership is inactive. +

Thanks for your patience! We process new memberships by hand, so it can take up to a week for us to catch up on paperwork. If it has been more than 7 days feel free to email us here.

How do I login to the member portal? +

Here is the login page.

How do I renew my membership? +

Log in to the CSPC Member Portal and select “My Membership” from the dropdown menu.

I forgot my member number. How do I log in? +

Do you remember the email address that is associated with your CSPC membership? That’s all you need to log into the member portal. Go to Help With My Account and enter your email address to regain access to the CSPC member portal. Once you are logged in you will see your member number up at the top of the page.

What if I changed my email address? +

If you no longer have access to the email address that you used to set up your CSPC membership account, email membership(at)thecspc.org with your legal name, your DOB, your CSPC member number, and the new email address you would like to use for your account.

I have a reciprocal membership, how do I attend a CSPC event? +

Go to the Membership section of our website and follow the instructions. Do note, reciprocal members still have to attend a CSPC New Member Orientation before attending their first event, but we do have those before nearly every event.

The CSPC Discord Age-Restricted Servers & iOS - How do I gain access? +

Visit Discord's "Accessing an Age Restricted Server FAQ" for steps on how to join via desktop and update your profile settings for mobile access to our server.

Click here for our CSPC Discord server invite!

Ticketing

Can I buy tickets at the door? +

No - All tickets to all events must be purchased online in advance. Tickets must be purchased at least 6 hours prior to the event start time so that our hosts can print out the check-in forms. There are no door sales for any of our events. We know this is inconvenient but it is a necessary adaptation to our new location.

What if I don’t use credit cards? +

Visa gift cards purchased at convenience stores work great with our online system. Use cash to get one of those and then use it to get your tickets online.

Refunds

Ticketing/Refund Policy +

Click here for information on our refund policy.

Inclement Weather Event Cancellation +

In the event that travel conditions in Seattle are determined to be unsafe due to inclement weather and public transit is running on snow routes only, the CSPC Board will notify attendees of an in-person event cancellation no later than 12:00pm the day of the event.

Notifications will be shared as follows:

  • A red banner on the main page of our website
  • Email sent to all registered attendees
  • Email sent to our volunteer Google group
  • Revised event post on social media platforms (CSPC Discord server, Fetlife, Instagram, Facebook and Bloom)

Note: No one will be on-site to turn away attendees.

Upon notification of the canceled event, attendees will be sent follow up information via email on how to redeem a coupon code for a future event.

As a reminder, CSPC events are non-refundable.

Travel

Our prior location on 15th Ave in Interbay closed in 2016. We now rent space on a per-event basis from Gallery Erato, which is the new permanent location for our sister organization, The Pan Eros Foundation (formerly the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture)

Directions and Parking +

Gallery Erato is located at 309 1st Ave S. There is a pay parking lot along our north wall. Pioneer Square has free on-street parking after 6 p.m. and on Sundays. This neighborhood is very well served by public transportation, including many bus lines, the streetcar, and the LINK light rail.

Remove valuables from your car. You are welcome to store them in our lockers. If you required a lock, please bring your own.

Accessibility

There is a small lip from the brick sidewalk into the Gallery. We have a folding wheelchair ramp that can be put out to transition over this lip so that our main floor will be accessible to folks in wheelchairs. It is stored just inside the front doors to the left and can be put out as it is needed. Please let us know in advance at info@thecspc.org if you’d like this put out prior to your arrival. There are play stations, refreshments, and restrooms on the main floor. Unfortunately, the basement of our space is only accessible via stairs. We have a policy that all essential planned/group activities at our parties take place on the more accessible main floor.

At our online events +

Our Tech Host volunteers can enable Live Transcription/Closed Captioning during online events for any attendees who would benefit from this service. You can request this at any time during a meeting (verbally or using the Chat feature), or contact us at info@thecspc.org prior to a meeting if you’d like to request that we enable this before you arrive.

Additional accommodations +

We strive to make our events accessible to all members and potential members. If you have any questions regarding accessibility, or would like to request any accommodations, please email us at info@thecspc.org. One of our volunteers will get back to you within 48 hours to discuss and help with your request. The earlier you contact us prior to an event, the more time we’ll have to collaborate with you on accommodations.

Will I be Welcome Here

I’m new to kink, are there beginner parties? +

We have in-person events geared towards people who are newer to the community, such as Fresh Meet. Also, our online Community Munches and Discussion Groups are great ways for new and existing members to get to know and connect with the community.

I am _ years old. Am I too young? Too old? +

Our events are open to anyone over the age of 18. Our parties welcome and celebrate the sexuality of adults of all ages- it really runs the gamut. Since we restarted operations in January of 2018, the youngest person through our doors was 18 and the oldest was 84.

Are parties queer/trans friendly? +

Absolutely! Our parties welcome anyone regardless of how they identify. If you are LGBTQIA and are interested in spaces that specifically center queer folk, come check out our quarterly party called LaQueer, which is created by our queer members for our queer members! Also, all of our bathrooms are gender neutral.

Are parties safe/friendly for BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) +

Yes! The CSPC endeavors to be a safer space for Black, Indigenous, and People of Color. We welcome people of all races and identities, and we celebrate diversity. We especially want to encourage you, if you come from a group which is under-represented, to attend our parties, volunteer, and take on leadership positions so your voices can be heard in our sex-positive community.

Every person in this space agrees to the following non-discrimination agreement during their new member orientation, and we will ask people to leave an event if they do not act accordingly:

“The Center for Sex Positive Culture welcomes everyone, regardless of gender, orientation, play style, relationship choices, race, religion, ability, disability, or body type. Many types of people attend our events, from many different communities within sex-positive culture, and it is important to leave our intolerances at the door. Racist, sexist, homophobic, bi-phobic, gender-phobic, trans-phobic, leather-phobic, or other biased remarks will not be tolerated. It is okay to be uncomfortable, but you must be respectful.”

Are people going to watch me play? +

All of our play areas are open to members, so people can see you play. We do not have private rooms, though some mattresses may have sheer curtains around them. We ask that guests who are voyeuring from a social area be conscious of how their energy may project into a scene. In general, we ask that guests give players their space unless you are invited to come watch up close by the participants. Additionally, if someone’s voyeuring is impacting your scene and you do not like it, talk to a Monitor or an EC and our staff will ask that person to move along so you can continue your scene. We do have one party called Myself! that specifically encourages exhibitionists and voyeurs, so if having people watch (and get off) to your scene is your cup of tea, that’s a great event to check out!

Getting Involved

How do I connect with the community? +

We're currently hosting free Member Munch events online, after each New Member Orientation. These munches (social gatherings) are a great way to get to know people. We also recommend the Fresh Meet parties and Passport program, which will be returning as we transition back to in-person events. Check out our Events Page to find specific times and dates.

What can I do to help the CSPC? +

We're so glad you asked! :-) The CSPC is run entirely by volunteers like you. Please see our Volunteering Page for more details. We'll even work with you to design a new role that will fit your specific skills and passions.

How can I guide the CSPC's future? +

There are leadership positions within the volunteer corps, up to and including helping out on the CSPC Board of Directors. The Board meets on the 2nd Wednesday of the month, at 7 p.m. (Pacific Time). Currently these meetings are being held on Zoom. You can view past Board Meetings here.