By Flowers

It's natural and healthy to have sexual fantasies, and exploring them can be a fun and exciting way to add some spice to your sex life. However, making your sexual fantasies come true requires some planning, communication, and consent.

Here are some steps to help you make your sexual fantasies a reality:

1. Understand your fantasy. Before trying to make your fantasy a reality, make sure you fully understand what it is you want. Be specific about what turns you on, what you want to try, and what your limits are. 

2. Communicate with who you are doing the scene with. It's important to talk with EVERYONE in your scene about your fantasies and get their consent. (If it’s just yourself that’s okay too!!!) Discussing what you both/all want and are comfortable with can help avoid misunderstandings and ensure that everyone is on the same page. Clear communication is incredibly important. 

3. Set boundaries. Be clear about what you are and are not comfortable with. This can include things like specific acts or situations, use of protection, or any other limits you have. Remember that it's okay to say no to something you're not comfortable with.

4. Plan ahead. Once you and your possible scene partners have agreed on what you want to do, plan ahead for the experience. This can include things like setting the mood with candles or music, choosing the right location, or preparing any toys or equipment you'll need.

5. Talk to people. If a scene you want to do involves another person, you need to talk to people. Nobody can read your mind, and if you are sitting in a corner not talking to anyone, you may never get to find your match. Introduce yourself, make friends! It also helps a lot to talk to people even if you aren’t super interested in doing a scene with them. Even if they aren’t specifically a good fit, people talk a lot in the community and many love playing matchmaker.  

6. Enjoy the experience. Finally, allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience. Let go of any inhibitions or worries and focus on the pleasure you are experiencing. Communicate with your partner(s) throughout the experience to ensure that you are enjoying yourselves.

Remember that making your sexual fantasies come true requires mutual respect, communication, and consent. With these things in place, exploring your fantasies can be a fun and exciting way to enhance your sex life.