Emma Atkinson

Hello, lovely readers!

We’ve been considering the Bumbershoot Consent model, using each letter of the word C.O.N.S.E.N.T. We’re up to “N”: No means no. Don’t make them say it twice.

“No” is a complete sentence, though, “No, thank you” is more polite. It’s probably best to begin a negative response first with something like, “Thanks so much for asking me…” Then you can decline the invitation with something like, “I can’t do that.” No explanation is necessary — keep it simple. Then, consider suggesting an alternative, as in: “How about if we talk over a cup of coffee in the next few weeks?” Of course, your suggestions would be what you’re willing to consent to. It might not hurt to come up with a few phrases you can use when needed.

For many of us, it can be quite challenging to say or to hear the word “no.” Practice may make it easier — give it a try and see how it goes for you!

Homework: Practice saying and hearing a “No” and share your thoughts at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma